Youth is a mesmerizing trip into the past and
a riveting look at the very idea of ‘coming-of-age’. In fact, youth is a
stylish, freewheeling and a fun ride stage of life that decides the openings of
thoughts and heading of the rest of the life.
“Adolescence is a new birth”
-G. Stanely Hall
Youth always gives us joyful, cheerful,
sometimes sad and gloomy but always memorable experiences. The most amazing
things like madness of friendship, mischievous pranks, falling in love, certain
first time experiences and bachelorette parties happens mostly during this
duration. This is also the time of devoting and reserving our life for someone
else who is going to be ours for lifetime.
Till now we just used to have fun with some
Love Calculators to find love percentage with our crush and compatibility
applications to know how compatible we will be with the same. Till date we only
perceived about our friends’ crush or sometimes crushes, time-pass or serious affairs
and break-ups. But nowadays, my mailbox fills up with the news of a friend
getting engaged or married. It’s also not a matter of worry for those who have
not been honored of publishing such news, because time is going to play its
role, but a little bit later.
So, I’ve hit the point that my Facebook, Hike,
Google plus and Twitter walls and timelines are booming with the news of friends
being committed, their engagements, ring ceremony, marriage and receptions in
the form of photos or posts with some smileys. Some friend who in our opinion
looks childish, posts over 100 pictures in an album entitled “MY WEDDING
<3<3<3”. Sometime ago my friends used to keep their single photo or
selfie, group photo or a picture of any actor or actress as the display pics of
Whatsapp and Facebook, but now that place has been acquired by couple photos
with hand-in-hand or looking towards one another. Some have also learned use of
some softwares to edit the photos to make the couple look more captivating. It
is very normal for some friends to cancel some planning on the last day because
he/she has to go to estimate someone as his/her life-partner. Now most of the
time of the telephonic talks with some friends passes in knowing the details
about the plus ones.
Most of us must be very happy to know that a
friend is entering a blissful new stage of life. It is a great occasion of
pleasure that our friends are finding their soul mates, the ones on whom they
are going to rely for their own physical, mental and social well-being. I
convey my heartily well wishes to those who got the perfect partner of their
choice without any compromise.
But some of us have reached that point where
it seems that everyone is getting married and I’m still single as ever. On one
hand, we're likely over the moon happy that our friends have found true love
and are excited to share in their joy; on the other we might find ourselves
feeling jealous, bitter and annoyed with the whole affair. Some friends are
very frustrated and jealous to listen about someone’s new relationship status
because they have seen many options for own life but none fits for them.
Sometimes the root of jealousy is the fear that they won’t ever get hitched
with such pleasure. Some are gloomy because their own crush or love is going to
belong to someone else. Someone has to hit the like button unlikely or comment
as ‘congrats’ heavy heartedly on the posts of the person who was he always thinking
to be with. Some want to be in relationship but their wish is being postponed because their family thinks them too young to be in that
stage and waiting for getting them more mature.
I have sympathy for the friends having such
conflicting emotions like all of your friends seem to be falling in love and
getting engaged, while you're still playing the dating game. The arousal of
some toxic thoughts like envy, self-doubt and fears about whether you will find
the right match are quite natural and it is a common tendency. So, my serious
advice is that never let these feelings to take a toll on your friendships and
overall happiness though. You can think like may be my ‘someone significant’
will meet me in one of the weddings I am invited to these days..!
As per my belief, the average age of people
getting married is NOT eighteen, but 24 to 26 for female and 26 to 28 for male.
In fact, the median age for a first marriage has been rising for decades. Some
research also proves that delaying marriage is actually beneficial and improves
the quality of the marriage! (I don’t remember the source and reliability of
the research though). The feeling-alone guys can either drown yourself in your
own tears and watch Karan Johar’s movies, read some of Nicholas Spark’s love
stories or you can wait for your destiny to change till you find someone
yourself.
Just remember that you have YOURSELF to live,
you have your own independence and freedom. So, go ahead and turn off the
television, put the story books aside, stop the playlists, get hammered, attend
your friends’ ring ceremonies and marriages. In a short coming future you
won't be booked every weekend for a wedding related function, you won't have to
worry about who to bring as your plus-one, and you won't have to glance at one
more wedding registry!
My cordial wishes for those who have got
their perfect match and are going to enjoy a lovely journey of life, happy journey. And my simple advice to
the in-waiting candidates that don’t rush things and enjoy the fact that you’re
still single today, God is busy in creating the best option for you and destiny
will play its role, just be patient till the opportunity knocks.
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