RESERVATION

[Disclaimer: The views presented here are personal and are not published with intent to harm emotions or mentality of any caste or person of society.]

Seeing government property burning…! This is a memorable but not a good sight at all. The reason behind all the loss of property may be either outrage by the police on the rally or violent mentality of some persons or anything else, but it is overall affecting everyone’s life.

My mind just started working out why the so-called-well-educated-society has to suffer such violent issues? The main reason for 25^th Augusts’ state of lawlessness is CAST-ISM and CASTE BASED RESERVATION.

The main intent of the Patidar rally was to get the reservation. But WHY? Do they really need reservation? Luxurious cars appears at rallies, crores of rupees invested (may be wasted) for organization of rallies and show (off). I agree that a large part of Patidar caste is still not living the level of life they deserve and need enormous support for their development. But the same situation is dispersed for the MOST of the other castes, too. They are also living in the state of poverty, they also deserve social well-being. Then why there is demand of reservation only for Patidars?

Some people who hated being called OBC are now demanding and fighting for this status. Some leaders are implying publically that they are following Sardar Patel’s way, but did Sardar Patel really want to divide people based on caste? Damn imitated, he united different constituencies despite of caste difference and created an undivided nation. Sardar’s soul is never going to get relieved by seeing this anarchy on his name.

In opposition to Patidars, the present OBC leaders are raised their voice with the fear of snatching a big part of their reservation. This has made the violence more intense. Some people gathered only as diluents to make a mass. They were like a dog chasing a car; they even don’t know why they were demanding so. Some opportunists are also misusing the name of Patidars and fulfilling their own purpose. I don’t understand whether firing the banks and plundering ATM machines will give them reservation? This is not at all the indication of a real educated society. An understanding leader must take necessary steps to suppress such deeds on an urgent basis.

When Dr. B.R.Ambedkar introduced the reservation only for a few years after independence with an intention of removing the caste based social and economical differences. (This is practically impossible in such a short time). Basically, the concept of reservations of seats for SCs/STs in House of People and Legislative assemblies was meant for a few years but incapable/unaccountable politicians extended it till now. The most disheartening fact is the situation of the MOST of reserved categories in India still remains the same as it was during independence. Who is responsible for it? I would say, it’s the people belonging to these categories, especially because they haven’t demanded their elected representatives to develop them. How long can the nation tolerate reservations in the name of caste when people itself want to stick to their backwardness? This will continue to happen until the people of reserved categories wake up and demand education, progress and accountability from their elected representatives instead of sympathy.

Solution:

I am not saying that there should be no reservation. I am in support of a totally different kind of reservation. I firmly believe that only good education at primary level is the solution of the majority of problems. I support reservations at the schooling level, but no child should deprive of education. I support the right to education of all the children irrespective of their caste or religion. Build more schools, recruit good teachers and make the society educated. If students of all castes get the same education, then there will be no need of reservations at college level education. Everyone will get admission in every field only based on their merit and not based on caste. This will require a great hard work for more than a decade, but after a few years we will start getting results. I support the reservation based on economical condition irrespective of their social caste. There should be no OBC, I support only EBC (Economically Backward Class). I support reservation of supportive schemes and its proper implementation for farmers, labors and other needful. Personally, I feel that since God has made us equal, we should not encourage reservation of any kind in our systems – jobs / admissions. Whenever we reserve place for someone on these foolish basis, we are snatching away the rights from deserving candidates. I am in support of identification of a person not based on his caste but based upon his work, his ability and his potential. I support reservation based on caste only in House of People and Legislative assemblies and that too for proper representation of all the social classes. I support equality and removing the concept of castes. In an educated society, no one is superior and no one is inferior. Instead of reserving seats in colleges and jobs based on castes, teach everyone to compete, spring up and make their existence worth for their social class.

“Give a man a fish; you have fed him for today. Teach a man to fish; and you have fed him for a lifetime” – Anonymous

So, let us arise, grow mentally and stop these violence and spreading anarchy. Government and constitution have their own limitations. It is practically impossible to keep everyone happy if they follow caste-based quota. Just realize that this is loss of our own property and our own peace. I would firmly request everyone to stop spading our own legs and maintain lively and peaceful environment.

< H P >

Mingle friends, Single me

Youth is a mesmerizing trip into the past and a riveting look at the very idea of ‘coming-of-age’. In fact, youth is a stylish, freewheeling and a fun ride stage of life that decides the openings of thoughts and heading of the rest of the life.

“Adolescence is a new birth”

-G. Stanely Hall

Youth always gives us joyful, cheerful, sometimes sad and gloomy but always memorable experiences. The most amazing things like madness of friendship, mischievous pranks, falling in love, certain first time experiences and bachelorette parties happens mostly during this duration. This is also the time of devoting and reserving our life for someone else who is going to be ours for lifetime.

Till now we just used to have fun with some Love Calculators to find love percentage with our crush and compatibility applications to know how compatible we will be with the same. Till date we only perceived about our friends’ crush or sometimes crushes, time-pass or serious affairs and break-ups. But nowadays, my mailbox fills up with the news of a friend getting engaged or married. It’s also not a matter of worry for those who have not been honored of publishing such news, because time is going to play its role, but a little bit later.

So, I’ve hit the point that my Facebook, Hike, Google plus and Twitter walls and timelines are booming with the news of friends being committed, their engagements, ring ceremony, marriage and receptions in the form of photos or posts with some smileys. Some friend who in our opinion looks childish, posts over 100 pictures in an album entitled “MY WEDDING <3<3<3”. Sometime ago my friends used to keep their single photo or selfie, group photo or a picture of any actor or actress as the display pics of Whatsapp and Facebook, but now that place has been acquired by couple photos with hand-in-hand or looking towards one another. Some have also learned use of some softwares to edit the photos to make the couple look more captivating. It is very normal for some friends to cancel some planning on the last day because he/she has to go to estimate someone as his/her life-partner. Now most of the time of the telephonic talks with some friends passes in knowing the details about the plus ones.

Most of us must be very happy to know that a friend is entering a blissful new stage of life. It is a great occasion of pleasure that our friends are finding their soul mates, the ones on whom they are going to rely for their own physical, mental and social well-being. I convey my heartily well wishes to those who got the perfect partner of their choice without any compromise.

But some of us have reached that point where it seems that everyone is getting married and I’m still single as ever. On one hand, we're likely over the moon happy that our friends have found true love and are excited to share in their joy; on the other we might find ourselves feeling jealous, bitter and annoyed with the whole affair. Some friends are very frustrated and jealous to listen about someone’s new relationship status because they have seen many options for own life but none fits for them. Sometimes the root of jealousy is the fear that they won’t ever get hitched with such pleasure. Some are gloomy because their own crush or love is going to belong to someone else. Someone has to hit the like button unlikely or comment as ‘congrats’ heavy heartedly on the posts of the person who was he always thinking to be with. Some want to be in relationship but their wish is being postponed because their family thinks them too young to be in that stage and waiting for getting them more mature.

I have sympathy for the friends having such conflicting emotions like all of your friends seem to be falling in love and getting engaged, while you're still playing the dating game. The arousal of some toxic thoughts like envy, self-doubt and fears about whether you will find the right match are quite natural and it is a common tendency. So, my serious advice is that never let these feelings to take a toll on your friendships and overall happiness though. You can think like may be my ‘someone significant’ will meet me in one of the weddings I am invited to these days..!

As per my belief, the average age of people getting married is NOT eighteen, but 24 to 26 for female and 26 to 28 for male. In fact, the median age for a first marriage has been rising for decades. Some research also proves that delaying marriage is actually beneficial and improves the quality of the marriage! (I don’t remember the source and reliability of the research though). The feeling-alone guys can either drown yourself in your own tears and watch Karan Johar’s movies, read some of Nicholas Spark’s love stories or you can wait for your destiny to change till you find someone yourself.

Just remember that you have YOURSELF to live, you have your own independence and freedom. So, go ahead and turn off the television, put the story books aside, stop the playlists, get hammered, attend your friends’ ring ceremonies and marriages. In a short coming future you won't be booked every weekend for a wedding related function, you won't have to worry about who to bring as your plus-one, and you won't have to glance at one more wedding registry!

My cordial wishes for those who have got their perfect match and are going to enjoy a lovely journey of life, happy journey. And my simple advice to the in-waiting candidates that don’t rush things and enjoy the fact that you’re still single today, God is busy in creating the best option for you and destiny will play its role, just be patient till the opportunity knocks.

< H P >